Legal Question in Family Law in India
I do not know what I need to do. I am married for the past 7 years and ever since our marriage we have been having problems. I even tried to end my life once but (un)luckily i survived. I have 2 lovely daughters and my wife is threatening me that she will just put both of them in the house and lock the house and leave. Since I travel very frequently and am hardly in my native place, i am not able to do anything. My job is such that I need to travel frequently and will be away from home for about 2-3 weeks every 2 months. She is torturing me about money, though i give her money before i leave and even when i am out of station, she will take that money and go pay for some jewel and then start shouting again. now for the past 3 months my company is paying my salary late and bcos of the company's situation i cannot do anything but manage. this she does not understand and for the past few weeks has been torturing me n my kids like anything. last time because of this torturing, i did not pick up her call for an hour as i had work in office. During this time, she sent an SMS saying that she will continue to beat my daughter till i pick up the call. So I came out and picked up the call when my daughter was crying badly and said that 'Daddy, it was I who was trying to call you and mummy is continuously beating me like anything because you did not pick up her call'. I will not say that i am not at fault, earlier once or twice, I had to travel urgently and forgot to give my wife money for house expenses. since she is working in a play school, she manager with her salary and then after a few weeks, I gave back to her the money that she spent. But since then she keeps saying that I am a useless *ss*hole not capable of running the family though I do earn quite well and have just my home loan and jewel loan as my commitments. I have my own house, car and what not. Still I am not sure what is wrong with me that my wife is like this. I should not spend any money on anyone and neither will she. because of this attitude of hers, my siblings have stopped talking to me and i am leading a solitude life. Sometimes, I thank god that my parents did not live to see this day. Any advice will be helpful as I started getting negative thoughts and think about suicide. It is just the faces of daughters that keep me going till date. But when they are being tortured, I am not able to do anything but just be a silent spectator as I am not there with them to save them. Pls. help.
1 Answer from Attorneys
Gentleman, you should not think in terms of reaction to your wife's attitude. In fact, you have a duty to care, not only your young daughters, but also your wife who appears to be a little disturbed. You need to treat her like a patient and find out ways and means to keep her happy. All you need is her change of attitude towards you, the family and life in general. Since your children are too young and your wife is unfortunately not keeping her mental balance, you need to be very strong in dealing with this situation.
There is no remedy in law which may come to your help. You are your own remedy, but ending your life is no solution for any of the problems you mentioned.
Be brave and face challenges in right spirit. you may like to read some literature and understand how similar situations could be successfully handled by people like Socrates.
All the best,
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