Legal Question in Military Law in Arizona

divorce

my husband is in the army he has been cheating on me since before we were married. he was cheating on me while he was in boot camp. we had a verbal agreement about a year ago that we no longer wanted to be together. he has since has many gfs and is currently in iraq. my boyfriend got me pregnant and when he came home for leave in which i tried to get a divorce he refused to stating that he loved me and wanted to be with me and would take care of me. after his girlfriend got down we continued being together without the knowledge of his gf or my bf. one day at the end of his leave he told me that he had changed his mind and no longer wanted to be with me. he told me that he would support me and give me 1200 a month. his 1st sergent know about the affair on both parts and told him that because i am pregnant i am entitled to nothing and he must devorice me when he gets home in april. he keeps threatening to take all of my money because he believes that he owes me nothing even though he wont give me the divorce. what are my rights in this situation? also isnt his commanding officer in the wrong for allowing the affair to continue with stevens self addmitance of it?


Asked on 12/08/07, 6:12 pm

1 Answer from Attorneys
Anthony DeWitt Bartimus, Frickleton Robertson & Gorny, PC

Re: divorce

1) War makes good people do bad things. Sometimes the result of this is that they can't decide what they find dear in their life, and they can't figure out what really matters. This does not excuse the behavior, but perhaps it explains it a bit.

2) You need to see a divorce lawyer immediately. You need to STOP seeing your husband, immediately. Since you are married and are pregnant, he is presumed to be the father. Whether he can rebut that presumption or not, there is a good chance that he will get stuck paying you child support depending on where you go to file the divorce.

3) Put this in the hands of your attorney, and they don't worry about it. Have your baby, keep him healthy and safe, and insist that the gets the full rights he is entitled to as a military dependent.

4) You seem like a wonderful human being who is forgiving, but not always discerning. You deserve a special person who will revere you for what you are, and not take advantage of you. You can find a similar person by going to church, and participating in community activities and keeping your eyes open. You deserve to have a happy life, and the sooner you divorce the loser, the better for you.

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Answered on 12/10/07, 11:34 am


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