Legal Question in Family Law in California

Engaged and Not Wanting To Create More Trouble

I am engaged to a divorced dad with a son. We have 5 kids together, the youngest being the result of our relationship. The x-wife is very upset with our having a family. She attacks my partner by phone, in public & even involves neighbors, friends and the son. We attended a baseball game and she remarked to the crowd how her son was playing badly because dad kept him up 'til 1 am (true, but the kids sleept until 10). I said it was lunchtime and mabey he was tired because he had not eaten since just after 10 this morning. She started, saying I had no right to say anything about/or talk about her son, etc... I replied, that he was going to be my step-son and I felt I do have a right. She got called back, & walked off saying "stinking wetback" in front of several other people and near the child. I bit my tongue & documented the incident. She is now threatening to have my partner's visitation revoked because I am "interfering with her mothering" & says she has witnesses who will swear I was (swearing and all) saying I could do anything I pleased with the child and she could not do a thing about it! LIES! I am scared. I love my fiancee and his son and wish to not cause either of them any hurt. Did I put them at risk?


Asked on 5/11/99, 3:00 am

3 Answers from Attorneys
Matthew Kremer Law Offices of Matthew M. Kremer

Re: Engaged and Not

I would not be overly concerned. When you meet with the mediators, it should be sorted out. I imagine there are plenty of witnesses regarding the ex's hard feelings towards you and your fiance. Get involved in the son's school, meet the teachers, etc. They'll have nice things to say about you.

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Answered on 5/18/99, 1:21 pm
Ken Koury Kenneth P. Koury, Esq.

Re: Engaged and

No, you did nothing wrong. This woman is a mental case. the only thing you can relly do is try to get some type of restraining order against her.

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Answered on 5/17/99, 5:43 pm
John Hayes The John Hayes Law Offices

Re: Engaged and Not Wanting To Create More Trouble

Unless the children have been abused by you or your

fiance she is just blowing smoke. If she refuses

to let your fiance see the children you need to immediately

file a motion with the court so that she will be ordered

to comply with the original visitation order. She

seems like a petty and jealous women who is only trying

to spite you. Legally she has no ground to stand on. Just

try and ignore her.

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Answered on 5/17/99, 10:01 pm


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