Legal Question in Family Law in California

"What are my rights and options" is really WAY to broad for a BBS question. I was tempted to flag your question as inappropriate, but let me point you in the right direction, instead. You need to pick up a copy of "How to Do Your Own Divorce In California" by Nolo Press, available in most book stores, most online store, and directly from Nolo. Before I started doing family law, I used it for my own divorce, because it was clearer and easier to use than the Family Law books in the law library, even for me, a seasoned litigator. It will walk you through a default divorce, especially if you get a little help from the Family Law Facilitator in at your county's Superior Court. If you then find you still have more specific questions, come on back and post them here.