Legal Question in Family Law in California
Gaurdianship or Adoption
My ex lives in California and has gaurdianship of my nephew. He put him on bus to come live with me in New Mexico.I found out that once he crosses the state line my ex loses all rights and my nephew becomes a ward of the state.Is there any way I can start paper's here so he can live with me and would it be better to go for gaurdianship or adoption?
1 Answer from Attorneys
Re: Gaurdianship or Adoption
When you are dealing with children you should start
from a point of compassion. If the child is being
sent from CA to NM that action would suggest that
somebody is having a problem. Since it is a nephew
you are asking about I would think the problem would
be the nephew's problem. The first thing I would
suggest is joint counseling for you and your nephew.
(A) Joint counseling will help both of you integrate
your nephew into your family (even if your family
consists of only you) and (B) counseling at all will
show your nephew that there is someone out there
who is taking the time to help him address his problems.
Last, joint counseling will show a judge and anyone
else that you are taking 'non-legal' measures first
[which most people think is a good thing] before you
start with legal actions. Believe it or not, resorting
to the law and the legal system is not always the
best course of action for children and other living
things.
The legal issues will, at the very least, involve
a law called the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction
Act or the UCCJA. At the very least that law says
that the last state the child lived in for 6 mos. or
more is the home state of the child and if there
is any litigation about the child it will take place
in the home state. There are exceptions dealing with
some emergencies but you will have to have a lawyer
go into court and argue about emergencies. The bad
part about that is that if you loose on that argument
and it is less than 6 mos. you ex, as guardian, might
legitimately and legally, demand the child be returned
to CA. I would not put much stock in the thing you
stated that you learned about crossing "state lines." As
a long time family lawyer that only sounds like something
you'd hear in an old movie. I know of no law or court
order that is dependant on 'state lines' in the manner
you expressed. I realize you are trying to be succinct
in stating your issue for this medium but my answer about
the UCCJA is on point regarding litigation over a
child.
The thing that I would suggest that you do get from
your ex is a notorized letter saying that at guardian
of the child the ex has voluntarily allowed the child
to come to NM to stay with you. Also, get a certified
true original copy of the order placing guardianship
of the child with your ex. Those two documents will
be sufficient for the immediate (at least 6 months)
future. If you have issues (such as wanting the
child to continue to stay with you) after 6 months
then consult a lawyer in your town. The state bar
of NM has a free lawyer referral service. You can
obtain the telephone number at their web site at
http://www.nmbar.org and look for a header called
"lawyer referral."
Good luck to you and your nephew.