Legal Question in Family Law in California

Please help�I need the help of all those who are into Law/Legal or specialize in it. I genuinely need your advice and help for a good cause�Please read. Long story but please read.

I have a friend. She was abused physically, mentally and emotionally; by her husband. The guy raped her on many occasions but she managed to have 2 of the incidents reported and they did a rape kit for both of them (positive of course). Am not racist or stereotypical. The guy is black over six feet and some 300 Ibs. She is white in her forties. The guy physically beat her, and is very good at manipulating her and was very effective at it until I came into the picture.

I don�t know the whole story, but she went to court. She was married two times previously (don�t look down on her and don�t judge her on this please�.she is so sweet). I don�t know if that worked against her or not�but the court proceedings are still going�even though she is the victim the, court has her as a witness only in the case. The a$$hole has a good lawyer and she has someone who works for the county, and I can tell the county guy sucks. Up until a few months ago the court ( and the witness coordinator) didn�t even know that she was raped. Lets call the husband the Ex.

The court issued a restraining order; that was probably a little less than a year ago when she first went to court. A few months ago we found out that there was no such thing as a restraining order. Also back then the judge gave her the option of keeping the house or not. She decided not to, she said to me it was old and had a lot of problems and that she didn�t want to deal with it. So currently he is living in it.

Now she�s living in the same city as me under an address that he doesn�t know. There were many occasions where the Ex would come to my city and find her in the mall threatened her to come back home and tried to drag her. She did not report it or any of his crap�.sorry I believe it�s from the trauma and the effects of his manipulation.

Ok back home she had four dogs that she could not take with her. She only took one, a small one. Up until now the Ex killed them all off and always made an excuse �that it was an accident, one ran off, two he ran over by accident�etc. anyway they�re all dead. The Ex is a cruel bastard. He does anything to make her feel sorrow, pain and tries always to corner her and manipulate her.

Every time she has a court hearing/appointment the date gets dropped. And I think it�s his lawyer that keeps dropping them. So far this is the 6th or 7th time. So far she�s gotten nowhere. By the way it is the state of CA that is charging him. She hasn�t done anything yet.

My friend has no one to support her, all her relatives are gone. the Ex is a control freak a complete psycho. The Ex made her life miserable. Before he showed his true colors he made sure that he had everything of her under his name. Her car is one of them. He also had his name in her cell phone account. He monitored everything she did while she was with him.

Ok also there was a time he left a verbally abusive real cruel voice message that showed his true colors, but later got into her online mobile phone account and deleted the voice message. I found out late and managed to get into her account and remove him completely. There are times he comes to my city and just waits (stalks her) and if he finds her he tries to forcefully take her back. Usually he does this by getting something precious that belongs to her or something that he can use as a leverage against her and persuade her. There was an incident where he saw her in a gas station. He comes over and tries to take her last remaining dog from her. Lucky for her, a while before the incident I gave her two pepper sprays. She maces him with one of them and manages to get away with her dog.

There was an incident where he calls her to come home and to pick up somethings. She goes and when the door is opened another woman is in there, they both physically beat my friend until she manages to get away from their clutches and run home�also there was an incident when she goes home and there�s another woman in the house who is wearing my friends sleeping gown.

This was back in the beginning of the case�going back: She had a detective who was working for her�and had a techie guy look over all of the abusive messages. And had them recorded. Later the techie guy/detective tell her that they�re being pressured by someone to drop everything. I never understood the matter. But to me it seems the damn Ex either gives bribes or somehow has good connections.

This Ex has hurt my friend in so many ways�just so cruel. I care for her. But am just a bio-chem student. I can�t do anything. I hate seeing her hurt and see and a$$hole, filth, human scum like him get away with all this�where�s justice? And I hate feeling so utterly useless.

All I know I can do and still do is to provide her with emotional support. She used to be easily deceived, manipulated and hurt by him; but ever since we got to know each other I watch out for her. I told her to ignore his calls and let him leave you text messages or voice messages. Never to pick up his calls. He has left her a lot of text messages and still does. But when her inbox is full her cell deletes them to create room for newer messages.

1) I tried to forward his messages to my email. But my yahoo email does not provide me with his number and detail information. I need something that I can somehow transfer all his texts to and eventually to a document or something that is valid and that can be used in court.

2) I don�t know anything about legal procedures. I need advice. I want to bring justice, I want to help my friend. I want to punish this scum�please any help with procedures, websites, step by step, advice, recommendation helps�

3) Continued from 2 how can I get a lawyer that can take care of the case and at the end if she wins he could take his share of what he charges afterwards. She does not have money. What do they call those lawyers or a case in which the lawyer takes his portion after the case is won. I need to speak. How can I contact one�sites, contact numbrs�anything helps.

4) How can I nail the filth the hardest. Charge him with personal/injury rape�what else�what procedures will hurt him the most. He needs to be taught a lesson�

I know you are all good people here. I thank you for your consideration and time taken into reading my question/plea and any steps you�ve taken into helping me�I greatly appreciate it. Thank you truly.

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