Legal Question in Family Law in California

Either works, but the courts take a much closer look and are much stricter on requirements for a default than a stipulated judgment with both parties appearing. I highly recommend that you pick up "How to Do Your Own Divorce in California" by Nolo Press. It outlines your options really well. If you still have questions, visit the Family Law Facilitator or Family Law Self Help office (various names in different counties). They can't give legal advice but can tell you all you need to know about forms and local rules and procedures.