Legal Question in Family Law in California

The Court is going to assume that you chose to have a child with your ex because you trusted his judgment, and he loves his child and will do what is best for him. To get over that assumption, you have to prove that he is using very poor judgment - e.g., allowing children to be around a molester or drug dealer. To require your ex to introduce his new girlfriend to you, which would be the way to go in a perfect world, is not likely. He may be trying to avoid an awkward situation for everyone, or worse. The reality is that some people want to remain too involved or too controlling with an ex spouse, and the Court is just not going to participate or allow that.

If he is bouncing around from girlfriend to girlfriend, say a new one every two months, you can raise that as a concern. In that case, your attorney may suggest to the Court that he not have unrelated overnight guests of the opposite sex during visitations with your son, until there is a ring and a date. It isn't going to prevent him from introducing someone to your son, but places at least a few restrictions.

If he is jumping from relationship to relationship, however, you may have better luck, explaining to your ex that your son has already suffered the loss of his intact family, and he doesn't need to develop relationships with anyone else who may not be around long term. He needs to prevent his son from suffering loss after loss, and have stability in his new life. Hopefully that will encourage him to be protective of his son's feelings, since your son has not chosen this situation. The adults chose this, and they should be the ones inconvenienced, not him.

Of course, it all goes both ways, and that is where some people have problems. They want to make rules for the ex, but they don't want the rules to apply to them. Whatever rules you make, make sure you are ready for them to apply both ways.

Your situation may benefit from co parenting counseling. This counseling process is designed to improve the communication between the parents and assist the parents on making the best decisions together for their children.