Legal Question in Family Law in California

I think you sister-in-law is pulling your leg. First, visiting the father in jail was not a good idea, but would not effect the order for protection. Second, criminal defendants are not notified via email. If you really think you have been charged contact the district attorney, preferrably through an attorney.

Something in your understanding of the facts is wrong. Your outline of the facts, however, contains enough unclear statements that it is impossible even to guess what you have wrong. You need to sit down with a lawyer and go over everything, with the orders and papers in hand. Otherwise you are never going to get accurate advice about this.

As a former victim of domestic violence myself, I know how these guys work and try to intimidate you in an attempt to maintain and regain control. I do alot of volunteer work to help victims of domestic violence. Call me if you have questions, as I am very familiar with the issues you are dealing with. Please do not allow him to violate that court order, and under no circumstances go visit him, no matter what he says to try to scare you. I am not really sure how you were able to visit him in jail, since they usually check restraining orders. If the restraining order included the children, you could have issues if you continue bringing them to see someone that the court has considered a danger to them.

I am not sure how you know the charges are real, but you can also call the Public Defender's office to see if you have been charged with something. I agree that something is not making sense with some of the story.