Legal Question in Family Law in California

It sounds as if you are a bit confused about custody issues. Sole physical custody means that the other parent has no rights to custody at all, or some type of monitored visitation. What you describe is joint physical custody. You have primary custody, because the children are with you most of the time.

I don't know what issues the children are having, but are you helping your kids have a relationship with their dad? The stress of the divorce should be ONLY on the parents. It sounds as if there is alot of anxiety for the children around the visits, and there shouldn't be. You both need to examine your own behavior and be honest with yourselves. Maybe you and dad argue too much, and the exchange venue needs to be changed to avoid the possible arguments (like a police station, McDonald's or other public place). Since I have not talked to either party, I am not sure what the solution would be.

The children should have been helped by BOTH parents to adjust, and this is quite a long period for them to still have major issues. Maybe you are both angry at each other, but the kids don't need to be aware of it, especially if this is causing them physical symptoms. You have not brought up any abuse problems, so I am assuming there aren't any, and I don't suggest creating any just to gain an advantage. I am convinced that children need both parents, with very few exceptions.

What the judge will do in your case, I cannot say. I will say that the judges are concerned with the best interests of the children which includes allowing both parents frequent and continuous contact with the children. Help the kids get over their anxiety, and you are on your way to having very well adjusted children.