Legal Question in Family Law in California

My son is in the beginning stages of a divorce. He has 1 son (5yrs old). The soon to be ex has not worked for over a year on disability, but according to docs letter can go back to work now. My son purchased a home a little over a year before they got married. She has financially ruined him by spending, spending, spending. She has obtained credit cards, has school loans(which he cosigned for), and made countless purchases of unnecessary stuff. I have been witness to all of this.The first clue to get out should have been when SHE went to the jewelry store soon after they were married and upgraded her ring. This was the beginning of their financial hole. My son had to take a large sum of money from his 401K to try and refinance or do the re-modification for his house. She sleeps half the day away, while my grandson is in a private school my son pays for. Since my son pays for school, there is after school day care, she often times wouldn't take him to preschool until 10 instead of the 8-830 the preschool started. She is using my grandson as a bargaining chip with my son. She is mentally unstable, her mother has called me several times in the past , crying and begging me to go check on her and my grandson, she would have gone to check but my daughter-in-law and her mother were not getting along at the time. She said she was in fear that my daughter-in-law was not taking care of my grandson and said she would end up back in the hospital. Which was an odd thing to say, I asked my daughter-in-law if she had ever been in the hospital for being unstable and she was outraged her mother would say that. She wants the house, MONEY, lots of money $3400 for her (alimony) and expenses, and 1500 child support. At one time my son made great $, this year he has had surgery and cannot work as he did before, possibility of more surgeries, more disability. She would like to obtain full custody, keep the house, ask for no support from her or family, OUR family is close and large, with many children of similar ages and have all agreed to assist with whatever is needed with my grandson. My son is just now going through the financial portion, filling out the financial's for mediation. Now that you have the background info My questions are: He wants to keep his home he purchased and his son. is this possible? What is the best way to go about this? How do I bring attention to the past concerns of her mom, which are our family's concerns also being she has my grandson 1/2 of the time? How is the best way to show she has brought my son to financial ruin with all the receipts collected and credit card statements? Please respond ASAP, mediation for these things in 3 weeks... :o(

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