Legal Question in Family Law in California

Re: Step-Children in a Divorce

You need to grow up fast and realize that you and your husband are adults walking through life together, even if you are separating. He probably loves your first child but is not willing to be forced into an obligation he does not want to take on. Ask him to meet with you without rancor to work out a Marital Separation & Property Settlement Agreement. Take a few meetings on this document and work it out together. See if he doesn't want to give some protection to this first child as long as you demonstrate your gratitude to him for allowing you to be what you were meant to be: a stay at home mother to his child and to your first child as well. After the two of you have worked out all of the details of your obligations to each other now that the passion has cooled and you are forced to walk through the rest of your lives with eyes open, you will be glad you put your feelings aside and acted like an adult.