Legal Question in Civil Litigation in California

Dear Attorney.

I 'm facing a tricky situation, I met a women 1 year and half ago at work. she offerred me to stay at her place for free and paying me to care for her place since she is a care giver and goes home only once a week. i had to keep the place and take the mail in, I also had access to her car ( she had 2) and was put in her insurrance, she was very nice at first giving me money and gifts like 5000 watch and gadgets. After few months she decided to ask me to marry her for the green card and share that she wasn't legal for the past 18 years, she is from phillipines. i of course said no and things went bad from there on.

I wanted to get a Job for a while but she kept insisting that I could stay free of charge and that she would care for me. I was stupid enough to become completely dependant on her. One day she took the car away and I lost my job that I just got as a delivery driver and kept coming home harrasing me, threatening me to cal USCIS and said that false allegations against me to stop me to naturalised to US citizen. She called the police and claim that I beat her up and stay at her place by forced, i was humiliated and put handcuff by police gun pointed at me auntil i had to explainmyself and be release on spot. I lost 30pouds since I have been with her and have medical record to prove that, i have developped hernia in stomack and struggles with poor health conditions, I can't sleep and I have constant fear of her calling police and make false statement. I decided to move out and go back to France for few Months, She threaten me to sue me for money recovery that she gave as a gift and emotional distress. She had good friends that are lawyers and are manipulating the Law in her favor to hurt me. today i'm still afraid that when I leave she will tried to make up story like I stole properties or else.

What can I do???

help me please!


Asked on 1/09/10, 11:56 pm

1 Answer from Attorneys
George Shers Law Offices of Georges H. Shers

I assume you have no assets, so she can not get anything if she sues you. Even if she has friends who are lawyers they can not change the law and are not likely to do much legal work for her without being paid, and she probably does not want to pay them for a suit that is worthless.

As to criminal charges, go to the police and make a detailed report including all you wrote above. The purpose is that if she tries to have you arrested the police will see that you might be the victim of a false arrest request by her. Move out of her home [why did you think she would let you live there, giveyou expensive gifts, probably have sex with her, and she would not expect something in return--your greed overcame your reason] and do not give her your new address; i fyou move to another city she is not likely to be able to find you unless you put your name on some computer web site, sign up for a land based phone, etc. You can use any name you want as long as it is not done with the intention of defrauding someone, so try using a different name.

Before you leave, write her a long letter detailing what she has done wrong and that you have not taken anything from her home. Just after she leaves for work, make a detailed video tape of he entire house to show what is inside so that if she claims you stole something she never had the video tape will not show that item. Emphasize in the letter that she tried to get you to make her stay legal [but you are not a permanent resident so how could you help her?] and that she is not here legally--do not threaten to report her to the INS as that is blackmail, but point out that you both know she could be thrown out of the country.

She is probably counting on you to be so dependent upon her that you will not cut the ties until she finds a new boyriend.You need to act now and not wait for something to happen to help you, because you have to make your own future.

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Answered on 1/15/10, 9:25 am


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