Legal Question in Sexual Harassment in Florida

Hello,

I'd very much appreciate some answers and advice.

I have an ex-boyfriend who won't stop trying to contact me. He was emotionally abusive, and from my description of his personality and actions my psychiatrist said that he fit the characteristics of "narcissistic sociopathic personality disorder". I had cut off contact with him and stopped responding to his emails, so he sent an email saying that if I didn't respond he'd fly to see me in person (he knows where I live, and I know he has flown to FL before to "surprise" an ex-girlfriend).

None of his emails threatened physical violence (but he does have anger problems which makes me uneasy), but they were numerous and continued after I told him to stop and that I'd consider it harassment if he continued. I paid to have his calls blocked (since he called and texted me at all hours), and have his emails forwarded to a special folder so I don't have to see them in my in box (but can check them later just to make sure he hasn't threatened anything or says that he's coming to see me). He has also contacted me through a mutual acquaintance, and over Facebook- even resorting to starting online Scrabble games just to put a message in the chat box of the game because he knows I have to open the game in order to delete it!

I asked my friend in law school for advice. He said that a cease and desist order signed by a judge or lawyer would be best. However, my ex-boyfriend lives in California and I live in Florida, and it has been at least 6 months since our relationship ended. He said something about that making it more difficult to persue legal action if need be.

I just want him to stop trying to contact me and playing mind games with me. He hates to be ignored and is doing everything he can to keep himself in my thoughts and it is making me so upset. I try not to let it get to me, and to block him as much as possible, but with the internet it seems like he always finds a way to contact me.

I would be grateful for any advice!

Thank you


Asked on 2/11/10, 3:30 pm

1 Answer from Attorneys
Alan Wagner Wagner, McLaughlin & Whittemore P.A.

Sounds like yo have done everything correctly. Giving him attention can cause more problems at times. If he does fly to Florida, don't open your door and tell him to go away. If he refuses, call the police.

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Answered on 2/16/10, 5:49 pm


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