Legal Question in Wills and Trusts in Florida

My biological father was not present at my birth, and during my mother's pregnancy had told her he did not want to be a part of it (according to her). She met someone else; this new boyfriend signed my birth certificate though he was not my biological parent and 2 months later, he married my mother, and 4 months after I was born, I was adopted by him (my birth mother's new spouse). They actually divorced 2 years later and I have had a polite relationship with him but he was not very involved at all. So, now I am 27 and have become a parent, so I've started realizing I actually want to know more. I especially want to know medical history, and have a personal desire to learn about my roots. My mother has very little to say about him, so i've only got a middle name that he went by and his last name, plus his line of work and maybe the college he attended (he has 2 degrees, she says). So, I looked online and think I may have an idea of who he might be. However, I do not feel comfortable contacting him, especially since I would like medical records. I would hope he would want to speak with me and maybe take on a parent role, but I know that is a lot to wish for. I believe he did wish to not have me around, because HE WAS MARRIED.

What do I do? What can I do? What should I expect?

How was my mother able to be the only person giving permission for my adoption by her new spouse? Why could they do that without my biological father's written permission? Why did they not clue him in? Has my mother lied, and did someone contact him? How did her word stand in place of his consent?


Asked on 5/24/10, 6:20 am

1 Answer from Attorneys
Lucreita Becude Lucreita D. Becude, P.A.

If your father's name (the non bio dad) was on the birth certificate at the time of birth, why did he need to adopt you? I think you need to ask your mom more questions. If you believe you have contacted the right person, just send him a letter and ask if he would like to speak to you. If he says no, then there you have it.

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Answered on 5/26/10, 8:02 am


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