Legal Question in Family Law in Georgia

my ex-husband & I have shared custody of our 15 year old for 10+years. Our agreement is "him 1 wk, me 1 wk" which i've never liked. For the most part he has lived with his Dad b/c he has always been a "Daddy's boy" & b/c that's where we chose for him to attend school. I allowed my son to live mainly with his Dad b/c that's what he wanted & I wasn't going to keep him from his Dad & risk resentment later & b/c I didn't think the back & forth agreement was healthy. Don't get me wrong I have never been an absent parent! Ever!!

At the end of the last school yr my son ask to come live with me so that he could go to school in my school district. I talked to him & his Dad in detail about my concerns with this(his wanting to return to his Dad/old school,etc) but eventually agreed with the understanding between the 3 of us that there would be no back & forth. As I was afraid of after school ending he started talking about returning, I said NO we had an agreement, you make a decision & you have to stick to it. Long story short, his Dad went behind my back & withdrew him from school & placed him back in his district without my knowledge for the upcoming school year(which recently started). This type of thing has been a recurring problem over the years, he plays ball & decides to quit, his Dad always lets him, joins ROTC, decides to quit, his Dad says ok. I suppose I should add that he is supposed to pay child support but I have never made him b/c he or his Mom always help provide & I try to be more than fair. I'm afraid my willingness to be fair & kind have taught them that they can do whatever they want.

my question is how can I stop him from making decisions without me. My thought is that going to court would cost a lot of money & only get him a slap on the wrist. I suppose I could fight for custody but again that would just cause resentment from my son. Unfortunatly My ex doesn't see the big deal. He & his mother seem to think they they can make these decisions including medical decisions without informing me.


Asked on 8/25/11, 9:33 am

1 Answer from Attorneys
Glen Ashman Ashman Law Office also dba Glen Ashman Attorney

Since no one here has read your divorce agreement or parenting plan the only advice I can give is that you should sit down with a lawyer and see what options you actually have.

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Answered on 8/25/11, 11:04 am


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