Legal Question in Criminal Law in Illinois

my friend came out of the closet a little while ago (that didnt bother me any) what bothered me is that she thought that me and her were a couple for 9 months, (when we were just friends) and she wanted her kids to call me mommy, she wanted to hold my hand when we were together. i said oh h*ll no. now since i told her im not into women nor do i or ever did i like her like that, and me and you are just friends and thats all we will ever be, she was like well i guess ill have the kids call you auntie, and now she wont speak too me, and if she does text me/call me she dont laugh like she used too or nothin. i even stopped hanging with her. its like shes down and out since i told her i dont wanna be with her in that manner. she wont talk to me like she used too, its like shes holding this against me. one of my friends told me im not a true friend because i cant accept the fact that shes gay and wants to be with me.... and another one of my friends said she may physically harm me cuz shes too into me so i better stay away. i told her i dont care about her being that way, but its like shes adamant about being with me. otherwise i dunno why would she hold this over my head and for so long.

i had ran into her one day and she was sitting down ballin up her fists and smirkin at me and she wouldnt sit still at all, she was with a friend and she didnt introduce me so i guess she had something to hide, yet when she left with her friend she said bye to me in this very sad voice, her facial expression was very sad. we spent everyday together up until not too long ago, I think she just wont take no for an answer because i dont know why else she would not speak to me. i wanted to be her friend and ive expressed this but since theirs feelings involved on her end, i think its hard for her to except that. so now she doesnt speak to me at all, and she since moved but wouldnt tell me where. My friends say I should get a restraining order against her, and my family wont let go out alone. they think if i see her again the outcome wont be nice, they think shes still very angry wtih me and may attack me physically. we havent see each other in months. the last time we seen each other was in december of 2010 and thats when the above encounterment happened. since then shes called me twice to try and fix it and i declined. Is this just cause for a restraining order or just leave it as is.


Asked on 9/18/11, 7:09 pm

1 Answer from Attorneys
Kenneth Goetz

Absent physical violence or threats, there probably aren't enough grounds for an Order of Protection. It is good that you have the support of your family which seems to want to do something to resolve the situation. You may consider seeking the advice of a social worker or counselor to help you develop a plan of action.

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Answered on 9/19/11, 5:50 am


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