Legal Question in Family Law in Illinois

Even though no-fault divorce has helped reduce abusive, name-calling battles, divorce is almost always an emotionally trying experience. A separation agreement is the blueprint for a divorce. it resolves in writing your legal concerns, sets out a legal plan for living apart, and can be a framework for your divorce decree. you and your spouse can write a first draft, but you should also get a lawyer's help.Here are the general areas your agreement should address: distribution of assets, Children, Spousal support.

If your wife has shown you little to no empathy, has treated you unfairly and made outrageous demands during your marriage; she will be the same, if not worse, during your divorce. Even if she is the one who initiates the divorce, this kind of woman typically has a seek and destroy attitude. You know too much about her and for that, you must be punished and discredited. If this kind of woman �wins� in the divorce, she takes it as proof that she�s in the �right��the �injured party��and you�re the bad guy. Your assets and shared children become her war trophies.

Pretend you�re planning to invade the beaches of Normandy. That�s the degree of thoroughness and secrecy that�s required when trying to free yourself from one of these women. Also, don�t let her push your buttons. If you lose your cool at any time throughout the process, it will be used against you. Negative advocates have been known to coach their female clients on �how to get him to hit you.� It�s sick, it happens and you need to be prepared for anything. The good news is that once you get through the process, you can start to rebuild your life rather than let her stress and torture you into an early grave.