Legal Question in Family Law in India

I am the eldest daughter in this family. My father is an ex-serviceman retired from Air force, he is an alcoholic, egoistic, thinks he is the smartest & intelligent person in the world and also believes that he has some natural power. He troubles everyone at home. He abuses me, my mother, sisters and other relatives. Earlier he used to trouble us like once or twice in a month but now it has become a daily routine, every night even during day time too he gets drunk and starts abusing everyone for no reason. I already knew his cheap character and low thinking but still did not do anything or say anything just because of my mother and sister, as my mother is a brain tumour patient and sister is a schizophrenia patient. He does not like me and always used bad words for me. Because of him I left several jobs as I was very depressed, I even tried changing my location and got transferred to a different city but that too did not work for me as he continued the same thing. His behaviour has been really strange, most of the time we see him in a bad mood, but then at times he will be really sweet, that is why my mother and we gave him several chances, thinking he might behave now. But it�s been more than 6-7 years and things have become worst in the past few months. He is attracted towards few ladies (maternal aunties) and as they all came to know about his mentality they do not want to keep any relation with him. He sure helped his widow sister and her children and his other relatives but to me and to others it seems like he did all this just to rule on them. Our relatives do not want to say anything just because some where they have this feeling in their mind that this person has helped them during their bad times and that is the reason when he calls them they either do not pick his call or if they do pick, they keep mum. As we live in a nuclear family we suffer almost every day but our relatives they suffer only when they pick up his phone. Finally after all this trauma that we have been through, we have decided to leave him. As I can not afford to pay for any legal actions right now like divorce. We have decided to go our separate ways, we have already checked with our elders like my grandmother and few other people. My grandmother says that it has become his habit, we cannot do anything about it let him do whatever he wants and asked us to keep mum. Checked with other elder people and they advised us to try and make him understand, and we have tried everything and his reply is (tum log mujhe samjhane ki koshish mat karo, tumhari itni aukaat ki mujhe samjhane chali). There are so many other things which I have not added here. I am just seeking your advice on, once we move out or go separate what all do we need to do just to make sure that he should not create any issues for us later in the future. He has tried to attack on me, my mother and sisters several times and we do not know what he is going to do in the future. Everything that I purchased from my own earnings, he says it�s his. He also asks me to pay all that money back to him that he has spent on me and my sisters. So I want to know if we can keep our belongings with us and other household things as my mother has equal rights on everything. Would appreciate your quick reply.

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