Legal Question in Family Law in India
seperated wife, needs custody of her children
Hi,
I am a married, mother of three children living seperated from my husband
for last 2 years. I quit him because he abused me and tortured me a lot during
my 10 years of married life. He doesnt have a job or proper source of income.
He never treated my illnesses and I had to depend on my parents. He has also
borrowed 2 lacs from my parents.( No documented proof)
I quit him, I took my parents financial help and started my own business.
Now, I am doing good. First and foremost thing I wnat is to take custody
of my children. On what grounds can I bring my children to me ? Do I have
to divorce him before I could do that ? On what grounds can I divorce him ?
I have a subquestion to this. 9 years after my marriage, agonized by my abusing
husband, I had sought help of a male friend which made my matters worse. I was
involved with him for a short while and I discontinued it. But, my husband found
it out and made me sign a paper that said I did such a mistake. He used it to
blackmail my parents and took money from them. How will this affect my case ?
Only thing I ever want from him is my children back. What should I do ?
5 Answers from Attorneys
Re: seperated wife, needs custody of her children
Before any definet reply is given some more information is required. Are you and your husband Hindu and were married under the Hindu marriage Act 1955, do you live in India, did you get married in India. However presuming you are Hindu and were married under the provisions of this Act, the following may answer the querries you have asked.
a)while prental abduction of their own children is an offence under the American laws, it is not so in India. So long as you two remain married your husband can keep the kids. Once you institute a divorce proceedings you can then apply for the custody of the children. Depending on the ages and the sexes of the kids the court can grant custody of the children. Normally, if the kids are minor and below five years the custody inveraiably is awarded to the mother.
b)As regards your involvement with your male friend, Adultery is a ground for divorce, but one act of discreation is not considered as living in Adultery under the India laws. So that should not bother you much.Hope this gives answer to your questions.
However, if you give me some more details of the facts and the circumstances of the case I would then be in a better position to advise.
Gp.capt OP Taneja`
Re: seperated wife, needs custody of her children
Simply put, as you are earning reasonably well to put body and soul together, you will get the custody of your children under the custody laws. Normally, children's custody is given to the mother, if she can take care of them. Your husband's history of drunkenness and physical abuse will come to your help. You can also obtain divorce from your husband, if you can establish cruelty. Your husband should not be given any license to blackmail you. On act of adultery "is not" living in adultery, hence, he will not be able to make much use of your letter admitting adulterous relationship.
You have a reasonably good case on merits. Women are usually favoured in the courts. Do not panic, and just get on with getting your children with you.
Re: seperated wife, needs custody of her children
I have seen the replies/advices given by my learned colleagues and I agree with them.
In short, your remedy lies in an action where you apply for a divorce and custody of the children. I am sure you may succeed, since you have a good case.
Re: seperated wife, needs custody of her children
you can get divorce from your husband on proving the desertion and toruture. as regards to the children please inform their age and also their sex. Normally the courts will allow their children in their mother's custody.
thanks and regards,
Re: seperated wife, needs custody of her children
If you are in New Delhi, I can help.
Regards,
Rakesh Taneja
www.tanejalawoffice.com