Legal Question in Family Law in Iowa

I lived with a lady for about 3 months. She was financially struggling to say the least and I was living in my mothers basement. We made an agreement that since we both in bad situations, hers financially and mine homelessness, that we would help each other out and move in together. After getting to know each other it became violent. Her toward me, not me toward her. She slapped me twice and hit me a couple times and threw an orange and my head and pulled all the cover off me while sleeping and poured a pop on me. I would try to leave when it became elevated but she would block me physically from leaving and hide my keys to my car and prevent me from leaving. I left Easter because she was having a bad day and I asked for the engagement ring I had given her to be returned. She flipped out. This is when she pulled the covers off of me and poured a pop on me while in bed. I left. She went to the courthouse first thing Monday morning and filed a protection order. This was not because I did anything to her at all but because all of my belongings were there and in her garage. She used the threat of the protective order to keep me away so she could have the time and liberty to go through my things and hide. sell, steal, pawn, and inventory all that I own to benefit herself financially and to hurt me during the separation. I have never physically done anything to her, but she claims I emotionally abuse her. She is an internet lawyer and looks up everything concerning her health and laws to help women, a liberal. I have never been served any papers at all but a server showed up at my mothers home and told her and my brother to tell me about the order and to not go around her. I want to get a truck and go and get my stuff before it is all gone or destroyed. If I show up and use my keys or break in to aquire my belongings and they serve me while I am getting my things, will I have to leave without my things, or will I be able to finish loading my things. And can I get in trouble if I do have to break in to get my things, it is my address, receive mail and have paid all the bills there for 3 months. And if she starts saying that the things I am taking are not mine will I have to leave without property since the law enforcement agents will not know who to believe. I want to get my stuff before i am served since I know she is using the protective order to remove my property for money as she is still financially unstable and she would sell my stuff to pay her bills and deny it was ever there. This woman has records, many of them, of puting protective orders on her men to stall and to have time to do what she wants to with property and records and seek information and to bide time. I have been married 5 times and have had three live in relationships and never a domestic or protective order or assault or anything. I am clean, she has many cases where she has done this and she is the abuser. Can I go get my things today, break in if necessary, and remove my stuff even if they serve me while I am there?

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