Legal Question in Family Law in Iowa

I am a single 23-year-old full-time college student, and a member of the U.S. Army reserves. I am looking for advice on an issue that has came up in my life. In July of this year a had a one-night stand with a 20-year-old girl in a hotel room that i had never met before. I had been at a drinking party and wanted to go back to my hotel so this girl offered me a ride. We had both been drinking and it just happened.(She did not even stay the night, she left right after and went back to the party....FYI) The girl was a friend of one of my peers at my reserve station. After realizing what happened I contacted my friend who knew this girl to talk to her about the situation. I wanted to make sure she was on birth control. After finding out she was not, I began to worry and told her to get a plan B pill and I would pay for it and everything.Which is not the abortion pill. She told me not to worry and she would let me know if anything came up.Well something did. She is pregnant and I am supposedly the father. The girl will not get an abortion and will not consider adoption. I have only met this girl once in my life, which was about four hours of drinking, and do not know much about her. From the conversations i have had with her she said I will either be in the kids life or she will make me pay child support. I feel like this girl was careless about the entire situation and might have done it on purpose. She once told me on the phone that her father was in the army too and she knows how it works. I have made efforts to talk civilly with her but she doesn't even have enough money to have a steady cell phone, and yet she wants to raise a child.....Even her own friend who introduced us tells me how irresponsible she is and not ready to be a mother. I am in the middle of getting my bachelors and have my whole life ahead of me. If this would have happened in better circumstances I would want to step-up and be a father, but this is all wrong and the girl is not a very good person. I want to know what options I have to get the best out of this terrible situation. Possibly signing rights away or anything to better my chances of having a normal/successful life/not paying some trashy girl for the next 18 years? Please help!

Asked on 11/21/10, 10:39 pm

Robert Luedeman solo practitioner

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If you think that there is a chance that you're not the father a paternity test can be done after the child is born. I suggest you hire an attorney.

Answered on 11/27/10, 6:52 am

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