Legal Question in Family Law in Massachusetts
what to do
Since my ex has been dating this woman she has changed all that he has done with hsi children by basically stopping everything. She has even stopped him from communicating to me and we use to co parent so nicely. This weekend he just told our oldest child he does not like talking to his mother (me) anymore. Then my ex asks me if i can call him at work instead. It is like he is hidding. I want to keep the peace and at the same time I beleive good co parenting means parents should talk pertaining to children and how to resolve a problem with our child or children when it happens. His girlfriend won't allow this anymore and it is bothers the children. The father discusses all his problems to the children which burdens them. You can not change people they are who they are. With all the attorneys out there have you seen this happen and what do you suggest? This woman is also divorced and cut all communication with her ex and turned his children against him so they stopped seeing and talking to their dad when they were 15 and 17. She is doing the same thing with my ex and our children and me. He now calls me awful names and talks to our children with his girlfriend about me and they come home hurt. Why the change?
1 Answer from Attorneys
Re: what to do
Assuming that you're correct about the good relationship you had, the reason for the ex-husband's change is simple: he has put his relationship with his current girlfriend over his ex-wife. The current girlfriend has likely made it clear that he must do so (even if she has not said it in words). She is insecure about your relationship -- that you might entice him back.
Try calling him at work, as he requests. Maybe that will help.
You can go to court to try to end some of the incivility, but it's unlikely to actually help.