Legal Question in Family Law in Massachusetts

Re: Divorce

It is inadvisable. New boyfriends and girlfriends are a breath of fresh air, but they are often "rebound romances." Thus, children can be re-hurt when another adult leaves their lives. While this is bound to happen at least once in most post-divorce lives, it is better to avoid giving the children an illusion of stability while the divorce is ongoing.

In addition, fathers fear being replaced. That's just how it is. "Fear breeds anger, anger breeds hate, and hate breeds suffering." Sure, that's Yoda, rather than some wise ancient Chinese philosopher, but even a CGI puppet can be right once in a melodramatic prequel. Why rush to set up the friction while the divorce is ongoing? If your husband is a fit father, give him time to build the new relationship with the kids so that the new boyfriend will be a more welcome addition later on.

And, just to be sure, please be assured that I would give dad the same advice. He doesn't need 50 girlfriends on "dates with his kids" while the divorce is still ongoing. With most divorces now being resolved in under two years in Massachusetts, a little patience is a very BIG virtue.

Re: Divorce

I wouldn't assume to know what your current situation is. Maybe you've been separated from your ex for a very long time already or maybe you haven't. Whether to introduce your current boyfriend to your children is your judgment call. Legally speaking, it is not illegal.

Re: Divorce

Yes, but with great care.