Legal Question in Family Law in Massachusetts

I just turned 19 years old, and I'm pregnant. My boyfriend (who is 18 and a half) is telling me to pick either the baby or him. I have a hormone disorder and was never supposed to get pregnant but due to my birth controle failing and how it gave me enough hormones, I had an accidental pregnany that I see as a blessing. The boyfriend says if i keep the baby he will move to Ireland and disappeare so he wont need to pay child support and he wont ever have anything to do with me or the child, is that even legal? plus he keeps changing his mind and saying he will stay and try to be ready or leave and support the child while gone and come back when he is ready, and now he is trying to force me into adoption. but I don't want to give the only child I am willing to have/ able to have up! this pregnancy has been painfull and full of complications, and I want nothing more than to keep my child. I feel sick when I think of giving the baby up for adoption. please help me, I dont know what to do.


Asked on 2/08/11, 7:19 pm

2 Answers from Attorneys
Paul Lancia Attorney Paul Lancia

Let your heart decide. If the father of the child sticks around you can pursue him for child support.

But, don't let such an immature person be the basis of your decision.

You have a gift, enjoy this time and especially when your baby comes. It will all work out.

If you need legal assistance, call me. I'll help you. No charge,

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Answered on 2/08/11, 7:25 pm
Stephanie Burnham Burnham & Associates, Attorneys at Law, PLLC

You should consider some counseling to assist you in making the best decision for yourself and your coming baby. Whatever decision you make should not be based on the biological father as it appears he is not going to be a reliable part of your family at this time. When considering your options, you should rely on the fact that the father is unreliable and not base any of your decision on promises that he may make. Instead, assume that he will not be available financially, emotionally or physically and then make your decisions and plans for you and your child.

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Answered on 2/09/11, 10:47 am


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