Legal Question in Mediation in Massachusetts

My husband and I have been separated for 5 years. We bought a house in 2002, and I moved out in 2008, and he has been paying the mortgage ever since. How do I know what I am entitled to? I'm not sure what the house was worth in 2008. We paid $200,000 for it in 2002. We put down $10,000, and his mother lent us $10,000. He is still living in the house, paying the mortgage. We obviously agreed that I am entitled to anything from 2002-2007, since my last payment was January, 2008. He didn't have good credit, and couldn't buy me out at the time. His dad was dying of cancer at that time, and he said he would pay me 'some' money when he got his inheritance from his dad. Back in August, he said he would give me $5,000. His dad died in September, and he just got his money about a month ago, $45,000. Over the past 8 or 9 months, he has been helping me out, by lending me money. He gave me a credit card with a $500 limit, and I was told I could use it, mostly for things I really needed, gas, etc...not frivolous. There were times that I did use it for more, and even though he would pay it, usually the balance each month, I would get 'lectured' on some of my spending. I offered to send the card back several times, but he would alwasy say that he was 'just trying to help me out'. He also made mention of the fact that it was kind of like paying alimony, so he didn't mind. We have already divided up assets, etc, and I am not asking for spousal support when we do divorce. When he got his money, he offered to pay some of my outstanding bills....since he had already 'given' me so much money. He told me to check my credit report, see what was out there, make calls, etc. I did that, and he is now ignoring my calls, etc. about the bills, everything. I'm not sure how to figure out what I am owed? I was under the impression that he was 'helping' me...and if he was taking that out of my money, then I don't think I should have been lectured about my spending. Also, I feel as though he has determined on his own what I am owed....I didn't want it to come to this, but I feel like I'm not going to have to play hardball with him....how do I figure all of this out??

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