Legal Question in Family Law in Michigan
I have been married 21 yrs I was a stay at home mom and did not have to work by my husbands request. He owns his own Co. and does a really good bussiness so I have lived a nice life and my girls and I never went without, I never thought I would be asking this question to a legal advisor. Its very sad actually.. This is my promlem.
HE always said I could go to work when the kids were 18 and in college just so I would have something to do & to get me out of the house... My youngest is 19 she just moved out last year and my 21 yr. old is now back home along with my 9mo old grandson we are supporting her. The father has not paid a dime has not seen his son or tried too which was better for the baby he was abusive. SOO my husband told ME and his DAUGHTER that he would take care of her and the baby for the 1st year then she needed to go back to school and get a part time job and NO daughter oif his was going on welfare AT THAT SAME TIME he tells ME to stay at home and help with the grandbaby then when she goes back to classes and her PT job childcare would be free cuz I would do it. So that was the plan for the last 7 months Now I have this nightmare.AND NEED ADVISE PLEASE
The last year but mainly its gotten SOOO bad the last 3 months. my husband has turned into this verbally emotional monster (I know it is due to his prescription drug use) I have told him time and time again of what he is doing and if it doesnt stop I want out, but Im still here only because i have no other choice he knows our marriage is over and there is NO WAY of ever getting back the damage has been done to ME..
.Actually now that I look back he has always been a verbal abuser and always acted narcissistic He has always made it clear to me that I would be NOTHING without HIM. NOBODY knows this side of him he only did it at home and only in private only to ME. BUT now he does it every night to me and my daughter. My daughter and I live in fear daily and its hard just to pack up and go we have no other family or a place to go this is it.. this is my ??? and I need advise ASAP..This is abuse to my grandson #1 reason also
my name is not on anything except for the house, NO credit cards no atm card no acsess to savings or checkings I have NO income except for what he gives me for grocerys etc.. and lately I have to beg for that..
He tells me daily that I will never get a thing from him That If I need money for food GO GET A JOB (when theres no food in the house that day like im suppose to get a job right now) but in the same breath he says Im worthless, noone will ever hire me NOW he does it to my daughter when the baby is out of formula he tells her she is worthless and to get a job . and yells in front of baby Its just a nightmare for us right now. Also he laughs in my face & says I can never start over due to bad credit in my name (hospital bills he didnt pay) and The car I drive is in the Co. name. He has me almost brainwashed to the point that i think I am stuck here. and the verbal abuse has worn me down to the point that I dont feel good about myself.
Today he said he wants to end it (THANKGOD) and he will give me 1/2 of the appraisal of our home.(more or less he said he will buy me out so I get out of the house and get a apt.)thats fine with me he can have the house I dont want it.
I live in Michigan i would like to know what i am entitled to legally. like his healh insuranse, transituational spousal support? I want to get out and get a job and a place to live but im 44 and havent worked in 23 yrs and have been dependent on him But I do not love him I want to make a new start for myself I wish I could just walk away and not have to have his help BUT I NEED IT at least till I can get on my feet am I entitled that?
. I have proof of his verbal abuse towards me my daughter and my grandson (he makes Mel Gibson look like a saint) and he knows i taped him I showed him the camera while i was doing it (thought it might stop him - NOT) my dr. knows of his abuse and my neighbors have sent me txt messages nightly asking if we were ok (they can hear him yelling every night). Im desperate here and need to get out asap but HOW and what are my rights and with the abuse going on now every night and getting worse and there is a child here is there anything else legally i can do?? THANK YOU
2 Answers from Attorneys
Get a lawyer asap. Your issues are too complex for free online advice. kliszlaw.com. Tim Klisz
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