Legal Question in Family Law in Minnesota

Struggling with Non custodial Parent

I am my childrens Custodial Parent with shared legal custody. My ex wants only two of our four children to come live with him. I feel the children that he wants to come live with him are not capable of making that decision at 14 and 16. He undermines my authority all the time when he has them on the weekends. Using that time to try to convince them to come live with him so he can get out of paying his child support. Also, He told my children that Since I started a new job after putting myself through college that I make more money than him. It just is not true I have to pay off all my student loans and pay for the children's upkeep, care and necessities. He uses the information that I have a job and making money as a justifier to my children that he has nothing and wants them to come live with him. I want him to stop, I've told him to stop. He manipulates the children with words and guilt. (his own guilt in leaving) He is remarrying this summer. I'm happy for him. But he also has to realize that separating the family unit up would not be benificial for the families health. we've been divorced almost nine years and he's only taken the opportunity to have them only two of the 9 summers for 6 weeks at a time. What options do I have?


Asked on 5/01/06, 11:08 pm

1 Answer from Attorneys
Maury Beaulier612.240.8005 Minnesota Lawyers

Re: Struggling with Non custodial Parent

The fact of the matter is that your court order is the law in your case. In orer to change custody, the other parent must allege that the children are endangered in their current custodial home and that the benefit of the change outweighs any harm. Only after that threshhold is met do the children's desires come into play.

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Answered on 5/02/06, 11:31 am


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