Legal Question in Family Law in Missouri

Obviously you should have hired an attorney. Thanks to our Supreme Court and various other powers that be favoring the "pro se" movement, we are going to see thousands if not tens of thousands if not hundreds of thousands of people like you acting as his or her own lawyer without the foggiest idea of what to do or how to do it. The negative consequences and bad legal results that follow, just as they have in your case, will be either impossible to correct or at the very least extremely difficult and expensive to correct. It might not be too late to hire an attorney for you, but my guess is that it is going to much more expensive than it would have been at the beginning of the case, and there will be no guarantee whatsoever that the attorney can fix the problem that you have created. Good luck.