Legal Question in Family Law in New Hampshire

Re: child support

Your daughter has a future child support problem of her own, if she has children with this man. However, she will resent both you and me for telling her this.

The woman in Connecticut -will- seek child support sooner or later. Only independently wealthy women need no financial assistance in raising a child.

I can't advise on Connecticut or New Hampshire law. In Massachusetts, however, we make clear that a spouse has no obligation to support children which are not his or her own. However, we also consider the possibility that the spouse's income can be deemed the responsible parent's primary support. Thus, more of his funds may be used to pay child support.

Passion, if not love, will probably overwhelm your daughter's common sense.

If there is anyone she trusts enough to hear, though, you need to make it clear to her: a man who says, "Don't worry, she won't come after me for support," is a man who is turning his back on his child. This man will make excuses -- "She tricked me, she lied to me, she said she was on the pill, I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing." All of these, which I have heard before, are a man's refusal to accept that he should have worn a condom if he wanted to minimize the risk of fathering a child, much less catching or spreading a disease.

Meanwhile, again, her future financial difficulty will be in ultimately collecting child support from a man with two pre-existing orders, unless she is lucky enough to avoid having any children with him. Even if her luck holds, she will be paying most of the household bills.

Re: child support

I think that the most important part of your question is your concern for your daughter. Legal issues aside, if this gentleman has two children with different women, there is a potential that he'll do the same thing with your daugther. Isn't that more important than money issues?

As to the woman who may or may not make claims, they can be brought at any time in the future. Generally the law of the state where the child is located will control, but the collection effort will be maintained where the father resides. In essence, court in both states will be involved.

Re: child support

She should see an attorney in the state in which she resides.

Love is blind, and usually engages the stupid unconditional gene. Lie a sand clock, this gene progressively disengages as a function of time, sometimes way after the wrong decision is made.