Legal Question in Elder Law in New Jersey

Re: GP Visit recently upheld now in jeopardy again

It sounds as if there is a great deal of conflict between you, your daughter, and your granddaughter, which is unfortunate.

A Motion to Vacate an existing Order is a motion seeking to strike it. Usually, a Motion to Vacate must be filed within a reasonably short time after the Order it seeks to vacate has been enacted.

Your granddaughter is a 15 year old teenager, who has expressed to you that she does not want to be forced to have visitation with you.

You claim your granddaughter has falsely accused you of saying "nasty things."

Legal proceedings can only accomplish a limited range of objectives. They cannot create close emotional ties where those ties are lacking.

Why are you trying to force your 15-year old granddaughter to have regular contact with you, when she has clearly expressed that she does not desire to have such contact?

You are making yourself the "enemy" here. Look at it from her point of view--"Grandma is trying to use the court system to force me to spend time with her, and I don't want to."

Do you seriously think, even if you could get a judge to rule in your favor, that forcing your adolescent granddaughter to have unwanted contact with you would result in a better relationship with her, whether short-term or long-term?

I will suggest another approach: write a nice letter to your granddaughter, tell her how much you love her, apologize for trying to force her to spend time with you, but let her know you would still like to maintain contact with her, on a purely voluntary basis, and that you will always be there for her, in case she ever needs you.

That might work better than the approach of trying to force your granddaughter to do something she doesn't want to do.

I strongly recommend that you consult with an attorney immediately so that you can explore your legal rights, obligations, and options. If you wish to discuss retaining my services, contact me at:

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