Legal Question in Family Law in New Jersey

Abuse

I am married for 17 years to a man who is verbarly, mentally and emotionly abusive to me and our three children.I know I have to leave,however if I do I am very aware that he will not help me with paing the bills he will simply not give me a dime.I know he would be abligated by law to do so but knowing him he will not comply.I don't make enough income to handle both mortgages and bills on my own,we have a house which I coudn't sell until divorce is final.My question and concern is : is there any type financial help for someone in my situacion? I have consolted a lawer and I was told that I must hold on my own until divorce is final, so I feel I dont have a choice but to indure a horroble life of abuse in his hands becouse I would loose the house and have to be homeless before I would be entilted to any help.Please let me know if this is how the system works ? Thank you

BEATA WIECZOREK


Asked on 11/01/06, 3:39 pm

3 Answers from Attorneys
Robert Davies The Davies Law Firm, P.A.

Re: Abuse

Dear Lady:

first, take a deep breath. his badgering and demanding and abusing is clouding your mind. you need a few minutes to stop, get a quiet place to think, and maybe discuss this with a friend. or better, go see an experienced divorce attorney, and get some advice.

If you start a divorce, and he refuses to comply with the Court's Order (for example for child support or spousal support, or to pay mortgage, utilities and taxes), then a good attorney working for you will just simply crush him. have him put in jail. i have done it when that is needed (you dont do this unless you have to but then by God you do). any decent and aggressive divorce attorney will protect you from his whims and demands.

please, for your kids and yourself, think it through, then go see a lawyer. your kids and you deserve better than what you describe. Good luck to you.

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Answered on 11/01/06, 4:02 pm
Jef Henninger, Esq Law Offices of Jef Henninger, Esq.

Re: Abuse

I agree with Mr. Davies. As he mentioned, your husband will have to pay spousal support. Thus, the other attorney you saw was wrong when he or she said that you are on your own. That is not the case in these situations. You will get money to pay the bills and feed the kids. At the end of the divorce, a Judge will determine if you should get alimony and the child support is set by law, not some artificial number out of the air. I suggest you see an attorney or even a few to discuss your case. The attorneys on this website are a good place to start. If you would like, you can call me at 732/247/3340. My initial consultations are always free.

Good luck!

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Answered on 11/01/06, 4:11 pm
Gary Moore Gary Moore Attorney At Law

Re: Abuse

He can be made to support you during a divorce. See an attorney to discuss

your situation in the proper way.

Gary Moore, Esquire

Hackensack, New Jersey

www.garymooreattorneyatlaw.com

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Answered on 11/01/06, 4:39 pm


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