Legal Question in Family Law in New Jersey

My ex-wife is a sociopath and an alcoholic. She has failed to follow any aspect of the JOD. She constantly sends me annoying, disturbing and sometimes frightening e-mails which are filled with lies. I believe that she wants me to react and rack up big leal fees so that she can countersue for whatever she imagines she can get plus her legal fees. Her goal, she once said while beating me to a bloody pulp before the divorce, was to rip out my heart so that I could watch it beat in her hand while I died and, short of that, to support her every habit and whim even if it meant I had to work three jobs and live on the street. She's incredibly manipulative, so much so that she manipulated her own attorney into fronting 20 grand in fees which she hasn't paid and likely won't. Further, she's a resident alien and has no qualms about taking my kid and heading back to her mosquito-infested country if the going gets felony. Am I better served by getting intensive therapy for myself and just forget my kid ever existed or should I take her down like a pair of dirty knickers?

Asked on 9/30/09, 2:20 pm

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Robert Davies The Davies Law Firm, P.A.

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Dear Sir,

I detect a great deal of anger on your part, and if what you say is even a little accurate, then you have some good reason for that. Sorry to hear it; it sounds unbelievably painful.

That said, let me tell you what the lawyer advises:

You will need to think this through with the assistance of a sharp and forceful divorce attorney. Forgetting your child exists is not a good option. Exactly what to do to stop this nonsense is going to take some careful planning.

You may want to take steps to stop her from fleeing to her mosquito infested home country. Who has the child's passport?

Are her emails in fact threatening? Then...time for a Domestic Violence charge and a restraining order.

Is she really sociopathic and alcoholic? Do you think your child is safe in her care? Do you want to raise the child and fight to get custody? That is difficult, but you need to look it over.

Give me a call if you would like to talk it over briefly. The telephone discussion will be free of charge, and I will let you know what I believe I can do to assist you further. My contact information can be obtained from the links below, just click on the Attorney Profile link. Let my secretary know you found me through LawGuru.

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Answered on 10/05/09, 2:43 pm

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