Legal Question in Family Law in New Jersey
rights of biofather if married when child was conceived
My husband and I were going to get a divorce, during this time I got pregnant from my boyfriend. He wanted nothing to do with me or the child and asked that i get rid of it. I refused to and during the 9 months worked things out with my husband. Now that she is born, x wants to be in her life. I believe strongly in raising a child in a loving household, not a torn relationship where the father didn't ever want her. My husband agrees. What rights could the bio father have, if any, to gain some custody? My husbands name is on the b.c. and the bio father lives in NE while my husband and I live in NJ. What are our rights and do I have to keep contact with the bio dad? Or can I change my number so he'll leave us alone?
Thanks
4 Answers from Attorneys
Re: rights of biofather if married when child was conceived
The father has equal rights, however, someone has to get custody. I don't see that changing from you. You cannot shut him out absent a court order. If he wants visitation, I suggest you hammer out a visitation schedule or go to court.
Re: rights of biofather if married when child was conceived
There is a legal presumption that the person you are married to is the father. This is a rebuttable presumption and the biological father would have to take some affirmative action to assert his rights. It seems to me that if he is doing nothing at this point to assert his rights and if your husband is doing everything that a father would be doing for his child, the longer that time passes, the less likely it is that a Court would take any action to insert the bio father into the equation.
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Re: rights of biofather if married when child was conceived
The biological father has the same rights as any father. You have created this situation and will have to make the best of things
Gary Moore, Esquire
Hackensack, New Jersey
www.garymooreattorneyatlaw.com
Re: rights of biofather if married when child was conceived
I have read what the other attorneys have said.
You really need to get some assistance from an attorney. I suggest you find an experienced divorce attorney (this is a divorce type problem) who is not too far from you, and ask the attorney for assistance. You will have to pay the attorney for the attorney's efforts.
There is a lot at stake. Get a lawyer!
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