Legal Question in Family Law in New Jersey

Re: The step-mother

You certainly are allowed to have information about her, simply to be assured that your children are not being endangered. If you cannot get this information voluntarily from your ex, you may be required to file a Motion to get a Court to order it.

Keep in mind that this advice is based purely on the little bit ofinformation that you have given to me. There certainly may be other facts that would change my opinion. And, no one can rely on the opinion of an attorney who has not been retained. Before you do anything, you should consult with a Family Law attorney. I would be happy to discuss this matter with you if you would call me. Mention Law Guru and your first one hour consultation is free. Good luck! Rob Gleaner

Re: The step-mother

In the best of all possible worlds, you

and his girlfriend would have lunch to get acquainted because, over the years there is going to be a lot of contact.

I would suggest that you write your former a husband, explaining that you do not seek contact with him, but your children will often be in her care and perhaps in the care of her mother and would like to get acquainted on a friendly basis and avoid going to court and seeking to impose what you want. Keep a copy of your letter and send it by regular and not certified mail to avoid the appearance of hostility.

You explain that the child will have a greatly expanded family and that it would be best that there be friendly, peaceful relations for the children's sake, but you would like to know your children's care givers.

If this fails, hire an attorney to obtain by court order that which you could not arrange on a friendlier basis.

You might prepare yourself to put your ego aside and avoid making negative comments to her, including negative comments about your husband.

Gary Moore, Esquire

Hackensack, New Jersey

www.garymooreattorneyatlaw.com