Legal Question in Wills and Trusts in New Jersey

Yes, the spouse can change their will without the knowledge and consent of the other spouse. However, they should not use the same attorney for the new will who prepared their original wills, as this presents a conflict of interest problem for the original attorney who may have an obligation to disclose the proposed change to the other client/spouse.

Yes, the spouse can change their will without letting the other spouse know. It sounds like this is part of a bigger problem, since most happily married people will not hide that kind of thing from their spouse. You should talk it over with a lawyer very carefully.