Legal Question in Civil Rights Law in New York

This is a civil issue and I want your advice on how to handle it and if it would be possible to build a case. Im about to start dating a woman of which we have been friends for some time and Im aware of a certain dating condition she has that I don�t necessarily agree with.

This dating condition concerns conjugal rights (sex) during a relationship. In short she has a 90 day waiting period before she sleeps with her partner and she adheres to it religiously. Now I respect her for that but my main problem is why does it have to be restricted to a number of days? I believe such issues should be discussed with the party that will be involved as it has more to do with readiness on both parties rather than the 90 days in question.

I suggested to her that if she unilaterally enforces the 90 day rule I will also enforce a similar rule after the expiry of her 90 days of which she refused and said it wouldn�t be fair.

Now I understand access to conjugal rights are exclusive to marriage but in terms of the constitution and bill of rights is it not possible for a partner in a relationship to challemge the legality of the 90 days because I believe its not a matter of number of days but more the readiness of both partners to make such a commitment.Can a partner have a say with regards to how these things are settled before such a condition is adopted.

Realistically is there a legal standpoint that exists which can be used to convince a partner that such unilateral decisions are unfair and selfish?


Asked on 5/12/11, 3:11 am

1 Answer from Attorneys
Michael Haber Law Offices of Michael S. Haber

If there existed a legal issue to convince a woman to sleep with a man, our courts would be clogged with lawsuits! If you are serious (which I hope is not the case), then you have a thing or two to learn about relationships; and if you are not, it was truly a cute try, but you are really wasting everyone's valuable time.

In the 1600's, the poet Andrew Marvell wrote a poem called "To His Coy Mistress," which begins, "Had we but world enough and time, this coyness, lady, were no crime." The poem reads as an effort by a man to convince his girlfriend of precisely what you wish to convince your woman friend about. Have you tried poetry?

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Answered on 6/05/11, 11:34 am


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