Legal Question in Family Law in New York

Re: Baby mama drama

Be resolved to end the bickering and to end ALL of those things that create the possiblity for bickering. Handle ALL of your support and child care responsiblities "professionally," ie., like a job and with formality.

Limit your contact and conversation with your Ex to the bare minimum. Do not argue, disagree or "engage" your Ex in conversation, in any way. Initially, this will probably antagonize her. But, if you are consistent, she will eventually begin to mimic (although ineptly) your method of dealing with her.

Keep your EX and finance, from having ANY contact or conversation with each other. Neither should ever have to see each other.

Further, there is no need to argue with your EX about money. ALL regular child care costs and expenses can be paid directly to the provider via a "third party" or if a "set" sum, it can be directly paid to your Ex, via a third party or agent.

Your basic child support should be set to be paid directly via garnishment of your wages; or via the Court's child support collection unit/agency. If you need help with this, You can access the "Unit" at the Court and online

The Health Care or Health Insurance "Direction" part of your child support/care Order, SHOULD be set to provide that your daughter's health care costs, UNCOVERED BY INSURANCE, are to be paid directly to the Health Care provider, as billed or invoiced.

If your Ex wants the Court to tell her to stop "harrassing" you about her phoney bills and other things, then by all means let her go forward, without a word from you, until you are in Court, with your proofs.

Good luck,