Legal Question in Family Law in New York

Re: child, his girlfriend, custody

While your desire to protect your child is understandable, most Judges will enforce his visitation rights.

If you block or thwart his visitation, or if you create symptoms in your child; you may be branded as "jealous and spiteful" and actually enhance his chances for custody.

If you take a positive additude toward daddy's new friend, so will your child. In the process, you will be saving yourself thousands of dollars' is pyschiatrist's bills for your daughter.

I have been a divorce lawyer for many years and I have just given you ten thousand dollars' worth of advice.

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Re: child, his girlfriend, custody

You may want to consider initiating a custody petition in Family Court.

You do not need to petition for "sole custody" - - indeed, it might make sense for you to try to communicate to your Hsb. that you are initiating a petition primarily for the purpose of "clarifying" the custody status: "joint custody" with primary physical custody with the mother is typical of the language that might be used.

In the context of such a petition, you could also address more formal requirements for visitation. You could, for example, ask in your petition that visitation with the Father be *exclusive* of his girlfriend - - for example, the former Mayor of New York City is not permitted to visit his children in the company of his poopsie.

There is good wisdom in the notion that more is to be gained, in the long run, by trying to be open-minded and cooperative about these things.

Or, put otherwise: Yes - in this day and age such separations and the gathering of new girlfriends {sometimes referred to among the 'better classes' as a "Trophy Wife", that is, the younger dame the hot_shot's 'earned'} is common, routine AND not the sort of thing that is going to earn the wandering husband any serious "demerits" in the eyes of the law.

Regards, etc.,

J. M. Hayes

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Re: child, his girlfriend, custody

Incident to an action for divorce, you can obtain an order limiting your child's contact with your husband's "friends."

Daniel Clement