Legal Question in Family Law in New York
family court
I am divorced and have sole custody of my 3 kids (21,16,13)
My X husband is always looking for the youngest to go places with him to help him (my x broke his foot) he always wants the youngest to go to his house take out is piles, do the dishes go with him to the store and the last straw today he called me and asked for my son to go with him to the drs office so the kid can open the doors and help him, i told him enough already he has homework to do leave him alone. he leaves me a message and says that if i dont let his son come he will tell all 3 kids that their mother had 3 aborations and killed 3 brothers or sisters on them. I was 17 & 20 when I did this I am 44 now what should i do
i am in family court right now fighting on child support that he hasnt given me in 3 months and to motify the visition for months now he just comes by to pickup our son to take him to do his chores, do i have a problem with this i want to bring this up in court but i dont want this to go against me
can this go against me please let me know
1 Answer from Attorneys
Re: family court
Suggest that you pursue child support enforcement and keep the support issue separate from your other child care and parenting concerns.
Suggest that you request that the Court Order you both to attend "parenting" classes, "to address the differences you have with each other about child rearing, that if not addressed, could affect your youngster in a negative way. But, remember NOT to say anything that could sound like you want to interfere with your EX's relationship with his son; or that you "know" best.
In the meantime, suggest that you let your Ex work your son "to the bone." Your son might learn something AND, end his father's exploitation of him, on his own, IF you give it time.
Expecially, if YOU make it clear to your son, that you stand behind him and that YOU respect him, and HIS ability to make HIS own decisions about how he should spend his time and energy. Suggest that you also reassure your son that YOU understand his need for his father's attention and respect what HE wants his relationship with HIS father to be, even if ...
Suggest that you should be forthright and not hypocritical, in all of your dealings with people, including your children. Then, you will not have to worry about blackmail.
Tell your children, or whomever, whatever you did 20 years ago, that you may regret, in the manner of a lesson, of what not to do, IF that is truly YOUR present belief.
Good luck,
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