Legal Question in Family Law in New York

It doesn't matter who files first. Under the circumstances you describe it is likely that you would be awarded some spousal support - but anticipating how much and for how long would require more detailed information from you.

It does not matter who files first. You might be able to get alimony, however, more facts are needed. You are also eligible to an equitable distribution of all marital assets. I suggest you consult an attorney.

Consult an attorney and file right away before your spouse squanders any assets. Do not wait for him to file, he could delay in order to hide money, property, etc.