Legal Question in Family Law in New York

I am the mother of a 14 year old boy who recently met and became involved with a 17 year old girl. He was rasied in what is considered a low income area while I went to college and during that time made friends with children that are undesirable. A couple of years ago we moved to a beautiful house in new jersey and since then he has been homesick, so i allowed him to visit family in new york where he met this female. Since then his whole attitude has changed so I began to monitor his messages, calls, web pages, etc. She was literally telling him what to say to me to get certain things and reactions. She sent him pictures of herself in underwear and topless holding her breast. She asked him in messages which I did not think to try and print out, to have sex with her without a condom so that they could have a baby. I finally secured a spot for him in a boarding school in upstate new york so that he could continue his education without her influence. For the few weeks before school started I kept him tied to my hip in new jersey to keep him safe. She would contact him on his phone computer, xbox, etc. I listened as she encouraged him to threaten to take his life so that i would let him see her. He finally did go into the kitchen and grab two knifes. Needless to say the last week was hell as we sat up day and night with our alarm on 24/7 trying to make sure we made it through this ordeal without him ending up in juvenile detention or worst. I did not contact the police then because I feared how he would react and where he would end up. We just dropped him off at school this tuesday morning and its hard but hes busy and getting adjusted. Part of the new students adjustment process is no cell phones or computers for 4 weeks. He is on the football team and has made some friends already. My hope is that time away from her and good happy experiences will help heal what damage has been done. My fear is that she will continue to try and get to him, so I now want to know what can be done from a legal stand point. Can a get an restraining order or can I at least make an complaint. Can she be notified that since hes a minor and I am his guardian that I do that want her in contact with him and if she tries there will be legal consequences. There has to be some way that I can keep her away from him. I never copied, saved, or printed out anything. I guess I was so focused on finding the solution that would leave him the least scarred. Because he cant have a cellphone, I took it to turn it off and saw some messages. She was telling him to run away and go to the "hood" as she called it, and start making some money to get them an apartment. She was giving him ways to make me think he was going to school so that he could go and make money. In the messages she writes "I am helping you think". As you know there are not many ways that a 14 year old can make money, especially mine who has been catered to his whole life. He is still woken up with breakfast in bed and very spoiled and babied. It is obvious that she is trying to take advantage of him since he is younger and less experienced. I am going to call my local precinct tomorrow, but cant sleep and would appreciate some advise. As I stated she turned 17 in june and he is 14.

Thanks in advance.

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