Legal Question in Family Law in New York

Mother's options -or- The Mills of the Gods

[1] In the old days, mother could avail herself of the "self-help" remedy of denying visitation .. &, in those 'olden times', often be uPheld by the Courts. However, that is _not_ a viable option now-a-days, and a mother would pursue this course of action at her peril UNLESS the father was somehow OtherWise abusing/mis-using the visitation.[2] To some degree, it would be helpful to know whether this scenario takes place in a marriage / separation {& whether there's a divorce action pending if a marriage} / out-of-wedlock.[3] One wonders, too, if your reference to NYState Courts means that this 'activity' {or apparent lack thereof} is taking place across state lines?[4] One wonders if the Father is employed / unemployed / demonstrably *broke* - or whether he has "means".