Legal Question in Family Law in New York
Unmarried parental rights
I am a single mother. When I found out I was pregnant the father didn't want me to have the baby. Now the baby lives with me, and the father sees him everyday. We recently broke up, im afraid he is going to try to get custody. What are my rights. How will custody be determined. I don't know the laws in NYS for unmarried parents, custody rights.
3 Answers from Attorneys
Re: Unmarried parental rights
The standard is the same, regardless of marital status: What is in the best interests of the child? Great weight is given to that parent who has been the primary caretaker of the child, especially an infant.
You may wish to file for custody in the Family Court. You may first have to file for a Filiation Order (Paternity). Then file for Child Support. Suggest you first consult with an experienced Family Law attorney.
Re: Unmarried parental rights
The test in New York is always the Best Interest of the child - however - in unmarried cases the chances of him getting custody are slim. He would have to show some extraordinary harm to the child if it stayed with you - Best of Luck.
Re: Unmarried parental rights
You would be acting "in the best interests" of the child if you took advantage of the services available in Family Court to help establish custody, paternity, etc.
If you cannot afford to consult with an attorney, you should act to save yourself grief later on and initiate a petition in Family Court on your own.
The court staff will help you, it is not complicated, you will have an opportunity to ask that an attorney be assigned to represent you
Acting sooner rather than later would be the better course of action.
Filing in Family Court to "establish" these basic issues Need Not Be a mean-spirited contest - - the child's father, too, would likely benefit from having his status and rights formally recognized by the court ... put otherwise, filing such petitions does not mean you have to have make claims of bad things against the father; the two of you could go there, together, and sort this all out without much trouble.
Good luck.
Regards, etc.
JMHayes
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