Legal Question in Family Law in New York

Visitation Emancipation ?

I have been divorced with joint custody for a little over two years ...my son in that time has had to visit my ex-spouse. This is nothing he has wanted to do..a law guardian was appointed but never listened to my son.We are in a position to feel he along with the judge were influenced. He has made his wishes clear to anyone who will listen, school psychologist, family doctor, minister..etcetera..He has heard that a judge would listen to him once he is 14,which he turned recently. I do not have any money left for a lawyer. Would he need one to go to family court ? If I knew he had a chance of having the visitation ceased I would find the money. He is a good boy and has put up with alot the last two or so years. He deserves better. thank you.


Asked on 8/30/02, 9:33 pm

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John Hayes The Law Office of John M. Hayes

Re: Visitation Emancipation ?

To begin with, there is a procedural hurdle: your son, even at 14, won't be able to file a Petition to change the current status on his own behalf.

The atty who was the Law Guardian _isn't_ any longer - - that atty's role "expired" at the conclusion of the last court case {altho', that atty might / likely will be re-appointed for new proceedings}.

So: you might be able to proceed by filing a petition, yourself, asking for modification / revision / setting aside of prior order - - such a petition would ask for the court to appoint a law guardian to represent the son, who has expressed a desire to cease / revise, whatever, visitation.

As a "general rule", one wouldn't expect visitation to be cut off, completely, unless there was significant proof of serious problems {"serious" as in approaching or being equivalent to the "trigger" language in the abuse/neglect area = "putting the child's physical, mental or emotional well-being at risk"}.

Those would be serious allegations and I surely hope you aren't dealing with anything of that sort - - I would caution you against "exaggerating" any such allegations.

As another "general rule", a 14-year-old _is_ in a somewhat 'stronger' or 'better' position to hope that his stated wishes / preferences will be given real consideration - - but that is not the same as saying that because he's 14, he'll get his way.

You could initiate this, yourself, without a lawyer, in Family Court; but you should consider at least looking for a lawyer first.

Try contacting the bar association in the county where you live - - if they have a referral program, you can arrange an initial consultation for next-to-no $$, and be under no obligation to hire the atty you consult with.

All of these cases *always* depend alot on the prevailing "philosophy" of your local FamCt judges - - I'm a believer in the proposition that it makes a big difference _how_ the pleadings are prepared & presented. If you can find a lawyer you can afford who "knows the playing field" you would be well-advised to proceed that way.

Regards, etc.,

JMHayes>>--> The foregoing amounts to musings and observations based on some years familiarity with the 'day-to-day' operation of the law with regard to the issues involved In The Most General sense; my remarks should not be thought of as "legal advice and counsel" in the formal sense of that phrase, since there is, in fact, no 'attorney / client' relationship existing between us. <-<<

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Answered on 8/30/02, 11:50 pm


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