Legal Question in Family Law in North Carolina

You can go to your local child support enforcement office - they have low cost and often free services to establish child support. You can also go to the Dept. of Social Services to see what programs you qualify for. As to filing for separation / divorce, its nice that you don't want to but the bottom line is even if you did want to - you can't. In North Carolina, you don't file for separation, you either simply are or are not separated and like it or not - you are likely separated (i.e. you don't get to decide, you either meet the definition or you do not) as to divorce you have to be separated one year to be eligible for that. However, you can start actions for spousal support and other things so your best bet is to consult with a local family law attorney. The easiest and quickest way to resolve things is to enter into a separation agreement.