Legal Question in Family Law in North Carolina
I live I NC. I had a baby in November. I did not put the baby's fathers' name on the birth certificate nor did I fill out an affidavit of parentage. The paternity of the father, which he is not questioning, has not been legally established with either paperwork or a paternity test. The baby's father lives 45 mins to an hour away from me and he expects me to take the baby to him for visits. He has never come to my home to see the baby. He saw the baby one time in the hospital and I took the baby to visit him one time when he was living with his grandmother locally after he got kicked out of his fathers home. The baby's father has never given me any financial support during the pregnancy nor since the baby has been born. I have told him multiple times he is welcome to come to my home any time he wants to visit the baby. He says he is uncomfortable with the idea of visiting my home so I have offered to meet him at a local restaurant or some other local public place. Now he is posting on Facebook I am keeping him from the baby which has resulted in my receiving multiple harassing and ugly messages from his friends and family. He is calling my friends and telling them the same thing and also that he will fix the baby problem. Am I in any way legally obligated to take the baby to visit him? Is there anything I can do about the Facebook posts, the phone calls to my friends etc? .
1 Answer from Attorneys
You don't owe that bum squat. If your story is even half way accurate, you have been more than accommodating to his dead beat butt. If he wants to see his kid, he needs to get a job, get some transportation, pay his child support and make adult arrangements to see his kid. You already have one baby to tend to you don't need be a mother to his sorry self. Anywho, that said, until paternity is formally established, he has zero rights to the child. Meaning you are entitled to keep the child away and probably should until he demonstrates that he can be a positive responsible adult father. If you want paternity established you need to biddy bop down to yon local child support enforcement office and slap a child support order into his pie hole. As to FaceBook, simply inform everyone that at this point he has no rights, has provided you no financial support, and expects you to bring the child to him. All of which makes him about as far away from being a man as you can possibly get without actually having a vagina! As to his family and friends, tell them to back off - if they don't, seek criminal charges where appropriate and / or restraining orders for phone and / or e-mail harassment. Best of luck to you.
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