Legal Question in Family Law in North Carolina

It sounds very much like you simply want to dictate how things will be and shut down his right to try for custody merely because you say he is unfit and find the process to be inconvenient for you. If so, that is just not how things work. As to what you can do - hire an attorney and if he has sought custody before and you have won - perhaps also try focusing more on being grateful that things are in your favor and less on whining about how you wish you had the power to control him.