Legal Question in Real Estate Law in Oregon

Re: eviction, notice, service, change date,etc.

Attorney ethics are very complicated as are fee disputes. There are experienced attorneys who have previously handled fee dispute cases who can help you determine whether or not an attorney has overcharged and whether that attorney should "disgorge fees." The rules of professional responsibility clearly apportion some decisions to clients, but others such as "strategy" are apportioned to the attorney. Again, there are lawyers who could evaluate your case for attorney malpractice and the bar association does evaluate ethical complaints.

Attorneys are people too. They go on vacations (not always of the hawaiian beach variety-sometimes its the more mundane absence for surgeries, family challenges, etc.). It does not sound as though there was a breach of duty to you as service was accomplished in spite of the vacations. Normally, dates of service just are-they don't require complicated planning or client consent. Your case may be different, but you will have to consult with an attorney with a lot of family law experience who is willing to evaluate this as a malpractice case.

But, before doing that, some soul searching might be in order to make sure you are making decisions in a rational manner and not remaining in codependant mode which may be the reason you feel the need to so closely monitor the situaton. Practically speaking you are trying to legally create that division between yourself and your ex. It's ok to let go of trying to manage everything for the best outcome by carefully coordinating all players walk upon the eggshells. It may not be pretty, but its time to let your ex start facing the consequences and take care of yourself.