Legal Question in Civil Litigation in Pennsylvania

Re: Calling off a wedding

You asked if a jilted bride can seek damages against the jilting groom who called off the wedding.

First, let me congratulate you on finding out that the potential groom was defective before the wedding.

As to your question, courts are mixed on this issue. This claim has been pursued time and time again. Often it is looked at as a "quasi-contract" because there usually is no actual contract to wed between the parties. But the one fiance knows that the other fiance has gone to trouble and expense in connection with the impending nuptuals.

I do believe you can and should seek damages against the groom for the expense and trouble to which, you, your family and guests have gone. Make certain to add up all the costs, from the professional time, deposits and fees to the cancellation fees and even non-refundable airline tickets and room deposits.

It really is a gamble as to how much of the expense the groom may be held to be responsible for. But, the more you can demonstrate how he was involved with the planning the more you will be able to demonstrate his responsibility for the expenses on cancellation. Moreover, you should show that he was aware that many fees were dues when the cancellation occurs less than 30 days before the wedding.

Needless to say, you need a creative attorney to pursue this case. And there is no guarantee it will be successful. But it will be therapuetic. Also, be aware that you will be unlikely to find an attorney to take the case on contingency.

For what it's worth, I have three suggestions if the date has not passed. If you can still have the party then maybe you should go ahead and have the party. Just change the theme from Congratualtions on Getting Married to Congratulations for Not Marrying That Stiff, or maybe just "Hey, Haven't Seen You In a While." Of course you should probably disinvite the people from his side.

The next idea is a charitable one. Find a local couple that is getting married and donate the reception and non-refundable services to them. Or, you could actually sell the whole package to another couple that was looking for a date and location.

Remember, if the date hasn't passed and you do sue, the groom will defend by saying you had a duty to mitigate your damages. The above suggestions would go towards that goal.

I would really like to hear from you on this matter. Either when you hire me or just to get a follow up on what you did do.

Again, congratulations on learning the character of your intended before the marriage.

Regards,

Roger Traversa

Email: [email protected]

Phone: 215.279.8940